Just a mid-week reminder to all those married-folk out there with kids to take a DATE DAY every now and then! In fact, we could altogether replace most of our date nights with days like these. And in case you were wondering, no, it’s not because I am in my 30’s now… well, okay maybe that could have something to do with it.
With all that’s going on, there are many days off where we just feel like doing nothing. Staying in, catching up on a show. Sometimes it’s easier. You just want to do nothing at the end of a hectic work day. The one full free day off we are lucky enough to have during the week, we like to set aside for “family days”, which really means.. kid day.
See, by the time we finish work for the day, we have to go home and prep the kids for the babysitter. Which means getting dinner set up, placing enough activities aside, cleaning up the house – even though a mess will likely happen within 5 minutes of us leaving, then we have to shower/freshen up, kiss the kiddos goodbye, triple check with the sitter that they have everything they need, then head off! What does a date night consist of? We usually try to plan a date night once or twice a month to get out, have dinner and see a movie. They’re usually the same- good food, good wine.. lots of talk about how tired we are. Long story short, by the time we get home? We’re lucky if we get lucky – if ya know what I mean.
I thought about that for a while. Why set aside just the NIGHT? And why does the sitter get to have all the fun with the kids?
I told my husband I wanted a DAY. I wanted to set the date part up during the day so that my energy was at 100% the entire time! I wanna wake up refreshed, relax a bit, have coffee with him.. then head out. That way we can come home to kids who are already fed, bathed, and all they want from us is play time and story time (the fun stuff that the sitter usually gets to do!). Can I just tell you.. this method is like 20x better for us and our schedule. I don’t know about you, but we MUCH preferred this way.
We still have the occasional date night every now and then, but if we can have the day to ourselves? We are much better parents by the time we get home. We look forward to being with the kids and spending quality* time with them, and we have just enough energy for.. well – whatever we want!
*This post and my points made here are actually geared more towards those with children, who can relate. Although, if you don’t have kids and you work over 40 hours a week and it’s already tough enough to get out and enjoy an evening with your love, you might want to consider the date-day.
Below are some snaps from a “date day” we had a while back when this tradition started – at the Rancho Bernardo Winery! We did some wine tasting, ate at one of the restaurants there, did some window shopping, caught a movie… a great day with my husband – looking forward to so many more of these <3
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