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    Adios 2015

    Whenever anything “comes to an end”, it’s always a time to sit back and reflect. January 1st is always a day of “it’s gonna be different!” “I’m gonna change for the better!” “This is going to be my year!” I love what Paulo Coelho said about the end of the year:

    One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.
    Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.

    Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden?
    You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened.

    You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that.
    But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister.
    Everyone is finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.

    Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.

    That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home.

    Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts – and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.
    Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them.

    Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose.
    Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood.

    Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.

    Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.”

    Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back.
    Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need.
    This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.

    Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life.

    Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.

    Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.

    -Paulo Coelho

    His words sum up how I feel perfectly!

    I’m not going to make lists about all the things I want to do differently, in fact, this time around I want to continue on the path I’m in – because we seem to be doing just fine. I love that the pace of things has slowed down, I love that chapters end and chapters begin. I’m just focusing on staying grateful for what I already have, no pressure to attain anything else.

    Some of you already know this or saw the video, but on Christmas Eve Jeff and I tried to trick the kids with silly presents to open for Christmas, and we were the ones in turn who were shocked with the gratefulness they showed to things like mac & cheese, pop tarts .. it was the sweetest. Sharing it here now since truthfully, this post was set up last week, and I am currently on vacation, in the mountains, with shoddy wifi, so this will have to do for now. <3 Happy New Year to you all! Love, Talia

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